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Charlotte Mason in Modern English
Charlotte Mason's ideas are too important not to be understood and implemented in the 21st century, but her Victorian style of writing sometimes prevents parents from attempting to read her books. This is an imperfect attempt to make Charlotte's words accessible to modern parents. You may read these, print them out, share them freely--but they are copyrighted to me, so please don't post or publish them without asking.
~L. N. Laurio
Charlotte
Mason in Modern English
Charlotte
Mason's ideas are too
important not to be
understood and implemented in the 21st century, but her Victorian style
of writing sometimes prevents parents from attempting to read her
books. This is an imperfect
attempt to make Charlotte's words accessible to
modern parents. You may read
these, print them out, share them freely--but they are copyrighted to
me, so please don't post or publish them without asking.
~L. N. Laurio
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Part I - The Conscience
SECTION I. The
Conscience In The House Of the Body
Chapter 1 - The Court Of Appeal
Conscience, the Judge, is Always in
Court
Things don't just go right in Mansoul all by themselves. We've already
seen how the various powers in the body, mind and heart are always
jostling, trying to get total control of Mansoul. Even the best
of Mansoul's government servants have their own personal demons trying
to trip them
up. But there's a safety mechanism in place to keep everything in
check, and to keep rivalry from causing problems. There's a Court of
Appeals that's always open, with the Lord Chief Justice on duty. We
call him Conscience. Let's take a minute and think about what a judge
does in a court of law. He doesn't automatically know who's right and
who's wrong in each case. He isn't expected to know. Advocates from
both
sides get up and present the facts and their best arguments to the
judge. He, as the authority who understands the law, gives the right
decision based on the information he's given.
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Everyone has a sense of duty, and Conscience is no exception. His own
duty is proclaiming what the law says, and what everyone's duty is. No
Mansoul is left alone without a sense of the right things he ought to
be doing. Everyone knows that certain things are required of him, and
that he has to answer to a Higher Authority for what he does. The
things that are due from us (duty) and what we owe others (ought) is
what Conscience tells us. We don't belong to ourselves. We belong to
God, Who made us. He has placed a Conscience within each of us to
continually remind us that we owe ourselves to Him. Conscience reminds
us that it's our duty to make sure that what we do pleases Him. He
reminds us that God is our judge, and He will deal with every offense,
surely and directly. It might not be today, but it will happen.
Conscience also lets us know that the reason for this judging is for
our good. It's to save us. It continually calls us back when we get
into wrong ways that injure and hurt us. It draws us back to right ways
of peace and happiness. Conscience asserts all these things to us,
every morning, every hour. He tells us that we're not free to do
whatever we feel like, but we need to do the things we ought.
Conscience
Can Sometimes Judge Incorrectly
But if every Mansoul has a Conscience giving judgments, then why is it
that so many people do wrong things? As we've seen already, there can
sometimes be anarchy in the government because laziness, or temper, or
pride, or envy betrays Mansoul.
I won't dwell on the fate of those who won't listen to their
Conscience. The point I want to make is that there's danger even for
those who do listen. We
sometimes hear that someone 'acted according to his lights' [i.e., he based his actions on what he
thought seemed best when he didn't have all the information].
However wrong he may have been, there are people who will excuse him
because he didn't know any better. If the person had no opportunity to
know better,
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then the excuse is valid. But we should never think that it's
acceptable to make decisions 'according to our lights' if we allow
ourselves to carry a tiny penlight when we could
light up the whole room with the flip of a switch.
Conscience
Can Be Tampered With
A judge isn't automatically familiar with the details of a case he's
going to decide. It's the same way with the judge within ourselves.
Just like a court judge, he also listens to advocates from each side.
Inclination hires Reason to plead his case in front of the judge.
Reason can be so subtle and convincing that the judge (our Conscience)
might pass the verdict in the defendant's favor. Conscience says, 'Obey
the law,' and Reason says, 'But what the defendant is doing is obeying the law.' And Conscience
allows the defendant to do it. This subtle tactic of misleading one's
own Conscience is an art that's practiced by both little children and
hardened criminals. This is one way that a person can 'act according to
his lights.' He finds a way to justify himself, his Reason finds
logical arguments to convince his Conscience that what he's doing is
right under the circumstances, and Conscience gives the okay. He
continues to cry out, 'You must do the right thing!' but he leaves his
members to define what's right for themselves.
There are lots of reasons why it's good for us to know this limitation
of our Conscience. For one thing, it helps us to understand why and how
some people and nations have done certain things throughout history.
Conscience
Needs to be Educated
We all need to know something about the make-up of Mansoul so that we
can tell who's speaking to Reason, persuading him to convince the
Conscience. It's not always apparent at first. Envy, for example, won't
come right out and say, 'I hate James because his father can afford to
buy him whatever he wants' or 'because he always does better than me,
whether in lessons
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or in sports' or 'because everybody likes him.' Instead, envy will
pretend that all he wants is what's fair for everyone. 'It's not right
that one person should always have extra money to spend while somebody
else has to scrimp and do without.' 'James just got a lucky break
because of a fluke in the scoring.' 'James will do anything to be
popular, no respectable person would do all that.' With these kinds of
arguments, Envy persuades Reason, and Reason makes a convincing case
before the Conscience, and the defendant gets off scot-free.
But once a person realizes that putting anyone else down to make
himself look better is motivated by envy rather than justice, he'll
be careful. He'll keep his tongue from evil and his thoughts from
hatred--and he'll submit to his Conscience when its unbiased judgment
reprimands him.
This kind of looking at things sincerely and directly is what Jesus
calls a 'pure' or 'single eye.' [Matt 6:22] Some people
automatically have it, so they're not easily deceived into calling
what's wrong right. But evil is tricky and always ready. It's wise for
all of us to try hard to recognize when misrepresentations are brought
before our Conscience. A Conscience that's been well-educated rarely
makes mistakes.
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Chapter
2 - Teaching the Conscience
Learning
From Books
An educated conscience knows that Moderation, Purity, Constancy and
Carefulness must have control in this House of the Body. But how do you
educate a conscience? Life itself brings us many opportunities to
learn. For instance, when we see other people do something right, our
conscience approves and learns a lesson. But when we see people doing
something wrong, our conscience condemns it. But we need a wider
variety of examples than our personal sphere of life can give us.
That's why books make the best teachers.
Every noble, beautiful thing that can be done is described in living
detail in the vast treasury of literature. History and biography do a
good job of teaching decency, but the best moral teaching comes from
literature--poetry, essays, plays and novels. Writing about real people
doesn't allow the author to truly express his insight.
Autobiographies are another way to lift the veil to another person's
thoughts, because the writer is free to say whatever he wants. The
Bible tells about the lives of people and the history of a nation
without the reserve that a lot of authors use when they write about the
bad things that heroes did, or the faults of evil people.
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Plutarch might be the only biographer who writes with as much
impartiality, although not always with the same justice.
Poets
and Essayists are our Teachers
Children get moral concepts from the fairy tales they love, in the same
way that grown ups get it from novels and poems. Matthew Arnold, who is
an excellent critic, says that poetry is an examination of life. And so
it
is, both a examination and an inspiration. Most of us carry around
little snippets of verse inside our minds that influence what we do
more than we're aware of, such lines as:
'We're often closer to wisdom when we stoop
down
Than when we soar.'
(from
Wordsworth)
'The friends who have proven themselves true,
You should attach them to your soul with steel
hooks.'
(from
Shakespeare's Hamlet)
So many wonderful thoughts that kindle flames of reflection come to us
in the form of poetry, in wings of verse. Just imagine how empty our
lives would be if we woke up and discovered that the entire book of
Psalms had vanished from the earth and even disappeared from our
memories! Proverbs, which are sayings of wise kings and wise words from
common people, come to us as if they were divine utterances. Essays
deal with how we act. They give us a lot of delicate lessons that reach
us more effectively because their style is so charming.
Novelists
and Playwrights Teach Us, Too
Novelists and playwrights have possibly done the most for us when it
come to learning. But not all novels and plays are good 'as examples of
life and teaching proper behavior.' [2
Tim 3:16] It's safest for us to stick with works that have been
around long enough to become classics. There are two reasons for this.
That fact that
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they don't die proves that the author had something timeless to say,
and in such a
way, that the world needs. Also, older stories and plays deal with
conduct, and learning what to do and how to act is the most important
thing in our lives. Modern [1900-ish]
literature deals more with emotions, and that's not the healthiest
subject for reflection. Once we find a book that has a message for us,
let's not make the mistake of saying we've already read it once. That's
like saying we've already had breakfast and don't ever need to eat
again. A book that helps us deserves to be read again and again,
because assimilation [so that the
book becomes a part of us] comes little by little.
Literature is full of valuable lessons about how to control our
physical nature, in the form of both rules and examples. I'll
give illustrations here and there to show what I mean, but I have no
doubt you'll be able to think of better lessons from my examples. And
that's fine, that's just the way teaching from literature should come
to us--a little here, a little there, casually as we read on because
we're interested in the story, or because the poem is so beautiful, or
the writing has such marvelous style.
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Chapter
3 - Conscience's Rulings In The House Of The Body: Moderation
Moderation
in Eating
Who can forget how 'the fortunes of Nigel' [by Sir Walter Scott] changed
because of
the dish that Laurie Linklater cooked to please the King? The story is
told humorously, but even all of the King's wisdom can't help us to get
over the cock-a-leekie [chicken and
leek] soup! This is how Sir Walter Scott prepares us: 'None of
these brave English cooks can satisfy the King's noble tastes with our
own Scottish recipes. So I used my skill to cook up a whole bunch of
friar's chicken for the soup, and a delicious haggis [sausage] that won everyone's
applause. Instead of being disgraced, I became a favorite.' He
approached King James with these same bold Scottish meals and
Linklater's unbelievable character becomes the person who resolves the
plot. Richie Moniplies 'reached the palace safely and demanded to see
Laurie Linklater, the under-clerk in the royal kitchen. But the cook
wouldn't be disturbed to speak to him. He was too busy cooking some
cock-a-leekie soup for the King. Moniplies said, 'Tell him that a dear
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countryman needs to talk to him about something very important; I must
speak to the king.' 'The king?' responded Linklater, being cautious. 'I
want nothing to do with this matter. But look, I've just made some
cock-a-leekie soup to be served to His majesty in his room. I won't
prevent you from leaving your letter on the table when you bring him
his soup. The king will see it when he picks up the bowl to drink the
broth.'
And the book ends with the king's last word: 'Now, my lords and nobles,
let's go to dinner, for the cock-a-leekie soup is cooling.'
What's so bad about that? Just that King James's moral integrity and
intelligence are clouded, and his dignity is sacrificed because of his
shameful failure to control himself in this and other matters. The
patriarch Isaac also let his love for savory meat open him to the
deception that divided his family. It's fine and even healthy to enjoy
our food, but to love and crave any particular dish is the nature of
immoderation. Plutarch tells us the same thing in his preface, talking
about his childhood:
'One day our schoolmaster saw that we had indulged ourselves too
luxuriously at lunch. During his afternoon lesson, he ordered his
servant to whip his own son in our presence. He said the boy was being
punished because he couldn't eat his food without condiments. All the
time, the philosopher
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was watching us, and we knew who this example was intended for.'
In
Drinking
We expect Le Balafré [Quentin
Durward, by Sir Walter Scott] to act like a drunk because of his
base nature, but it distresses us to see the generous, noble Lord
Crawford losing his dignity and control of himself over drinking wine.
The occasion is a banquet to welcome Quentin Durward's election. 'But
for now, Lord Crawford refused to take the seat assigned to him. He
told everyone to continue their fun, and stood watching the revelry
with an expression of enjoyment. 'Leave him alone,' whispered
Cunningham as Lindesay offered their noble Captain some wine. 'Leave
him alone, there's no need to rush him, let him drink on his own. In
fact, the old Lord just smiled at first and refused, setting the wine
glass in front of him without even tasting it. But soon, he began
absent-mindedly sipping a little. And then he remembered that it would
be bad luck not to drink a toast to the brave guy who had joined them
by winning the election. Of course, he had to be polite and join in the
toast. Sliding into the assigned seat without thinking what he was
doing, he made Quentin come to his side and asked him all kinds of
questions about the general state of Scotland, and the important
families there, which Quentin was well able to answer. Meanwhile, Lord
Crawford slowly emptied his wine glass, commenting that it was proper
for Scottish gentlemen to be sociable, but that young men like Quentin
should do it
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cautiously so that too much socializing didn't degenerate into excess.
And he said many excellent things about the subject, until his own
tongue, although praising temperance, began to slur from too much wine.'
Times have changed since then. Some men may still drink, but not
usually men who have Lord Crawford's dignity of character. People are
beginning to understand that simple living goes hand in hand with high
thinking. We're beginning to have more control in both eating and
drinking, and the day is coming when excess in either will be shunned.
Taking
it Easy
Maria Edgeworth's tale of Lazy
Lawrence has
become a classic illustration of laziness. [In volume 1 of The
Parent's Assistant;
Young Lawrence is too lazy
to work and will do anything for money except work - gambling, cock
fights, even theft. But little Jem is industrious and earns enough to
prevent the family from having to sell their beloved horse.]
Other more appealing
characters have the same fault. For example, here is Harry Warrington,
from The Virginians by
Thackeray:
'Harry's lace and linen were as nice as his aunt could wish. He bought
a beautiful shaving plate and some magnificent embroidered pajamas in
which he could laze around and sip hot chocolate in the mornings. He
had swords, fancy walking canes, French diamond-studded watches with
hand-painted backs, and snuffboxes exquisitely decorated by French
artists. He had a whole troop of grooms, jockeys, and tradesmen waiting
to see him. They were admitted in to see him and Parson Sampson one at
a time, by Gumbo, his head butler, while he enjoyed his hot chocolate.
There's no telling how many servants Mr. Gumbo had under him. Certainly
no single servant could have managed and maintained all of the fine
things that Mr. Warrington owned now, not to mention the horses and
carriage he had just bought. Harry also learned the arts that were
proper for
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young gentlemen of those days. During the season when he lived at
Tunbridge, he had a live-in fencing instructor and dance teacher, both
French. He spent a lot of time working with them until he could do both
with grace and skill. In just a few weeks, he could handle himself as
well as anyone. He took riding lessons on a great horse owned by a
riding instructor who came to Tunbridge, but decided that he'd rather
ride like a Virginian.'
Here we have a picture of busy idleness--and idleness usually is busy. Hogarth painted the kinds
of people that Thackeray describes who lived in the same kind of
excessive luxury and abandoned idleness. Charles II was another one.
Although he walked a lot, he shirked even the least hint of the work he
should have been doing as king. Unfortunately, both history and fiction
are full of men and women who never bother to seize opportunity when it
presents itself.
Day-Dreaming
There are more ways to be immoderate than eating too much, getting
drunk and sleeping in. In The House
of Seven Gables, Nathaniel Hawthorne describes another type of
idleness. Hepzibah Pyncheon, the lonely spinster, lived in The House of
Seven Gables, and spent her days dreaming up odd castles in the air.
'All the time that Hepzibah was perfecting her idea for a little shop,
she had an unrecognized notion in the back of her mind that some
unforeseen bit
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of luck would come to her rescue. Perhaps her uncle, who had sailed to
India fifty years ago and never been heard from again, might return and
invite her to share his wealth in his old age, and adorn her with
pearls, diamonds, oriental shawls, hats, and make her the sole heiress
of his uncountable fortune. Or, perhaps, a member of Parliament who was
currently head of the English side of the family which hadn't been in
contact with the American side of the family for two hundred years,
might invite Hepzibah to leave the House of Seven Gables and live with
his family at Pynchion Hall. But, for her own important reasons, she
wouldn't accept his offer.'
How do you excuse a lazy person?
How is it that of all
The lusts that could enthrall
The Bible heroes to deeply fall,
Sloth hides at first, hell-frame accursed,
Where every poisonous root of sin is nursed?
To slip you you have to first of all
Tell yourself to stand up tall
And rise up straight before you fall.
But if you're prone so work is shunned
You'll have no comfort, rest or fun
For doing nothing means nothing's done.
Know
Your Job and Do It
Carlyle, who believed in hard work, had this to say about idleness in Past and Present: 'Who are you who
brags about your
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life of ease, smugly shows off your fancy modern furniture, soft
cushions, appliances to do everything including folding your hands to
go to sleep? An idle person is like a monster. The latest proclamation
in the world is to Know your job and do it. Know what you're capable of
doing, and work at steadily, like Hercules. That's a wise plan.
'It's been written, 'There's a lot of significance in work.' A man
perfects himself by working. Hideous tangled jungles are cleared away
and replaced with beautiful productive fields of crops and magnificent
cities. And man himself changes his own self from a jungle or barren
desert and becomes--a man.'
The
Principle Behind Moderation
The fact is, Conscience isn't as concerned with how immoderation is
manifested in our lives so much as the underlying principle behind
moderation. St. Paul wrote about it when he condemned people who
'worship and serve the creature more than the Creator.' It's by this
principle that we'll be justified or condemned. In light of this, we
have good reason to suspect any style of diet or exercise that
encourages us to have too much concern for our physical body, whether
it's a diet of nuts and fruit, peacock brains, or cock-a-leekie.
England is in serious danger of giving herself over to worship of the
goddess of health. But a more
elusive goddess was never revered--the more she is pursued, the more
she runs away. Yet she's ready and willing to bestow smiling favor on
the person who never even casts a thought towards her. I say truthfully
and sincerely that the pursuit of physical and mental well-being is
becoming a cult. The
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danger of this kind of cult is that it makes us focus our attention on
our own selves instead of on Christ.
We use 'faith' in our minds to create certain attitudes that make our
minds and bodies feel better, and that makes us more comfortable. And
we forget the danger of exalting the concerns of the creature above the
worship of the Creator. The essence of Christianity is passionate love
and loyalty towards a divine Person. Faith, which is the adoring regard
of the soul, is supposed to help us be more like Jesus--'meek and lowly
of heart.' Any kind of 'faith' that raises us up to some higher level
should make us suspicious that we're trying to use Christ's power to
serve
ourselves and our comfort, more than God's glory.
Carlyle was right when he said that the state or lack of our own
well-being isn't the central concern of the universe.
Excessive attention to our physical selves is one kind of immoderation.
But even worse is neglecting our spiritual nature which enables us to
do everything else. That's the root cause for the indifference of
laziness, and the excess of greed. 'Take no thought for the life,
what ye shall eat or what ye shall drink.' 'Eat whatever is set before
you.' These are the rules God gave for us to keep our bodies in
moderation, sobriety and purity. 'Take no thought,' because all sins
against the body begin in our thoughts.
We
Live in Our Times
I may seem to have gotten off the subject of the Conscience and how it
relates to moderation. But it's necessary to stay aware of the current
trends of our times, as well as keeping guard over our own appetites.
We
live
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in our times. We need to realize that Reason can justify any strange
trend, whether it's a fruit-eating colony in the Pacific, or living on
one meal a day, or fasting and not allowing ourselves to eat or drink
anything at all. Only a well-educated Conscience will safeguard us from
being persuaded to follow such trends. When we're tempted to eat like
primates or eat only nuts, let's be like Punch, and laugh some common sense
into ourselves!
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Chapter
4 - The Rulings of Conscience in the House of the Body: Purity (Part 1)
Purity
of the Soul
In this area, too, the well-educated Conscience has a broad focus.
God's Law forbids impurity of any kind, whether it's in our
imagination, what we say or what we do. Everyone knows this. But do we
understand that it's as important to preserve Love as Faith? The
well-educated Conscience knows that any excessive affection or
extravagant devotion pollutes the purity of any self-controlled person.
Any relationship, even a friendship or fondness between a mother and
child, is suspect to a clear Conscience if it becomes too absorbed and
exclusive so that one person is constantly needed by the other, and
other rightful duties and loyalties are neglected. To be a person's
'all in all' isn't really a pure desire except when it comes to
the intimate relations of marriage. Purity of the soul is like the
picture Giotto painted of being walled in with a tower. 'Do not touch'
is the appropriate rule. Relationships that are too intimate and
exclusive should be kept out.
The
Tragedy Of Edward II
The dangers of breaking this rule of a pure life is well illustrated in
the sad
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tragedy of Edward II as
written by Christopher Marlowe. Let's look at the story. One lesson
like this taken from real life is worth a lot of advice and
resolutions. Too much affection is a fault that tends to go along with
a generous temperament, and Edward was generous,
'My father has died! Come on, Gaveston,
Share the kingdom with me, your best friend.'
What an example of friendship! Edward is eager to share his entire
fortune with his friend. And Gaveston, for his part, is ready to repay
Edward's love with his own love.
'Sweet prince, I'm on my way. Your loving invitation
Is enough to induce me to swim all the way from France.'
The nobles resent their affectionate devotion because they have their
own legitimate demands on the new king's time and affection. They call
a
meeting and protest with prayers and threats of rebellion. Here is how
the king ends the meeting:
'I'll live or die with Gaveston.'
And Gaveston adds, 'I won't be separated from my lord.'
Edward: 'What, Gaveston, you're here? Welcome! Kiss my hand.
Embrace me as I give you a friendly hug.
Why should you kneel before me? Don't you know who I am?
I'm your friend, the missing part of yourself; I'm like another
Gaveston!'
Edward piles titles, land and honors on his friend generously. He even
gives him his own seal of authority.
'Save or condemn whoever you want. In our name, command whatever your
heart desires, or whatever takes your fancy.'
The nobles have another meeting to decide how to get rid of Gaveston,
the 'ill-tempered Frenchman.' And that phrase is really rather accurate
because the king's beloved favorite friend really was ill-tempered,
quickly offended and resentful.
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'So, arm in arm the king goes with him,' said Lancaster. And Warwick
added, 'And so, leaning on the king's arm, he nods and scorns and
smiles at everyone who passes.'
Even his wife, Queen Isabella herself, complains.
'But now, my lord, the King ignores me.
He dotes on the love of Gaveston.
He throws his arms around his neck,
Smiles at him, whispers in his ear.
When I come in, he frowns as if saying,
'Go somewhere else. I don't need you, I have Gaveston.'
The barons send Gaveston away to Ireland, and the king cries,
'Don't stay away long! If you do,
I'll come to join you. My love will never fade.'
They exchange pictures of each other, and King Edward says,
'Here, take my picture, and let me wear yours.
I wish I could keep you like I keep this picture.
I was so happy, but now I'm so miserable!
Speaking kindly and exchanging goodbyes makes us even sadder.
So, with a silent embrace, let's part.
Stay, Gaveston, I can't leave you like this!'
Edward threatens and pleads with Isabella until she gives in and
asks young Baron Mortimer to work on the nobles and have Gaveston's
short exile ended. Isabella brings the good news to the king and is
rewarded with affection for the moment. Edward is elated and showers
rewards and praises on his nobles.
But, when Gaveston returns, he's as unbearable as ever, and the barons
are just as intolerant. The king only cares about his friend and
prepares for civil war to punish the nobles for 'their pride.' Once more
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the barons try to convince the king that his exclusive absorption in
his friend is ruining the kingdom. The gifts, celebrations, balls and
shows he's given to Gaveston 'have drained the treasury. There is
threatened rebellion, which could result in the king's removal from the
throne. The king's armies have been beaten out of France, wild Oneyl is
making himself ruler of Ireland, the Scots are making unresisted
attacks in north England, the Danes have control of the narrow seas.'
'What country are these foreign ambassadors from?'
'Your gentle queen, Valois's only sister, 'Complains that you've
abandoned her.'
The peers don't even attend the royal court anymore. The citizens make
up scornful songs and rhymes.
Does this change the king's mind? No. The criticisms of his barons make
them traitors, as far as he's concerned. He says,
'Poor Gaveston! I'm the only friend he has!
I don't care what they think, we're staying right here in Tynemouth.
As long as I can enjoy his company within the palace,
I don't care if the Earls criticize us from every direction.'
Things go from bad to worse until finally, the barons are exasperated
and behead Gaveston. Will the kingdom now finally be rid of its
unbearable burden? No. Even while the death of the king's favorite is
still news, Edward says,
'In his place of honor and trust,
Spencer, sweet Spencer, I adopt you.'
Spencer had also liked Gaveston, but it's only the king who is
excessive in his affection. Exclusive, all-encompassing friendships are
succeeded with new friendships that are just as absorbing. It isn't
because of fickleness, but because a person who has been weakened and
undermined is no longer able
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able to exist without the philandering affections that he's gotten
used to.
The tragic tale continues with rebellion, insurrection, and civil war.
The only gleam of brightness is the young Prince Edward, who believes
in his father in spite of the things he hears.
'Just wait, I'll win the king soon.
He loves me more than a thousand Spencers.'
When King Edward finds out that his wife dishonors him and his people
are deserting him, he begins to think of his son.
'These things don't hurt me so much, but my little boy
Has to face what they do wrong.'
Nothing changes. Queen Isabella has Spencer arrested right in front of
the king.
'Spencer! Sweet Spencer! Now we have to part.'
Spencer replied, 'Oh, is he gone? Is noble Edward gone?
Is he no longer here, not to see us ever again?'
There seems to be no doubt that his friends returned the love and
devotion that this excessively attached king gave them.
Edward is imprisoned, and his final message is,
'Give my best to my son, and tell him to rule
Better than I did. Yet, what have I done wrong
Except to be too lenient?'
Each
of Us is a King in Our Own Realm
We won't follow Edward's sad tragedy to the end, but his question,
'What have I done wrong?' is a valuable lesson. His life was ruined,
his country was devastated, his wife was dishonored, his loyal subjects
were forced to become traitors and assassins--all of these things
happened as a direct result of the king's behavior. Yet he asks at the
end, 'What have I done wrong?' His uneducated
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Conscience didn't show him the fatal mistake of his life. He decided
for himself which duties he would obey, and it appears that his list of
life rules consisted of only one rule--Be
faithful to your friend. It never occurred to him that we're not
supposed to pick and choose between our duties, or that a duty we cling
to can become a fault. You might think, 'Yes, that's true if you're a
king. But, luckily, common people are free to do as they please.' But
we're not. Each of us is like a king choosing among a thousand
relationships, duties and interests that are appropriate for us. If we
decide to give ourselves over to someone else so that our own will is
paralyzed and we can't think or do anything unless they tell us to, and
we can't be happy or relaxed unless they're with us, then we're just
like Edward. We've sown disorder in our own realm. Our realm may be
smaller and not as great as Edward's, but it's the realm that we're
responsible for.
We Aren't Free to Give Ourselves Without Reserve
In general, men seem to have learned to have more restraint in their
friendships than they did in the Tudor days when Marlowe thought it was
necessary to offer this lesson to the world. Maybe in his day, men
admired their friends with a more passionate fondness. But this isn't
an issue of male/female. This affects relationships between school
boys, girls, men and women, and ladies. It just seems like there are
people who can't seem to live without a doting passion for some
beloved. Here's another example:
'Our boarding house was filled with mystery and romance,' said
Coquette, brightening. 'It was because of two young German ladies who
were there. They introduced the practice of--what shall I call
it?--exaltation. Do you know what I mean? When one girl makes another
the object of her devotion because
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of her goodness or her beauty, and worships her. She kisses her dress
when she passes her, and serves her in every way, but without speaking
to her. And the girl who is the object of this worship is supposed to
be proud and cold and show scorn for her worshiper, even if they had
always been friends. It was the young German ladies from the Bohemian
Forest who introduced it. They were tall and dark and very beautiful.
Many girls wanted to worship them, but they were always the first to
seek out one of the other girls to worship. No one was as humble and
obedient as they were. The whole boarding house was filled with it. It
became like a cult, an obsession. Some girls would even cry and kneel
on the floor to express their love and admiration for the object of
their adoration.' [from A Daughter of Heth by William Black]
Plutarch knew all about that. In his Life
of Agesilaus, Agesilaus had a personal and very sensible reason
to be uneasy about his attachment to Spithridates's son Megabates.
While
he was with him, he made a point of trying to resist his feelings of
devotion. One day Megabates came up to say hello to him, and Agesilaus
didn't return his greeting. From then on, Megabates was more distant
with him. Agesilaus regretted that he had rebuffed Megabates and
pretended he didn't know why Megabates was so cool with him. His
friends told him it was his fault for not returning Megabates's
greeting. They said, 'He would be glad to continue paying you the most
friendly respects, just be sure you never brush him off again.'
Agesilaus was silent for a while, thinking. Then he said, 'Don't
mention any of this to him. This second victory
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over myself is more valuable to me than Midas's gift of turning things
to gold.'
A generous heart approves of this kind of great affection. But a noble
Mind and well-educated Conscience need to look beyond that and preserve
the Soul's purity. We don't belong to ourselves. We have no right to
give ourselves completely away with abandoned passion.
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Chapter
5 - The Rulings Of the Conscience In the House Of The Body: Purity
(Part 2)
Ordered
Friendship
A
Sane and Generous Friendship
But, for every illustration of an excessive relationship, there are a
thousand examples of sensible, healthy and noble friendships. The
classic examples of friendship are so well-known that I don't need to
quote them. But here's one that's less familiar:
'You're my only friend, aren't you? So haven't you earned the right to
share my wealth? Tell me that, Alan Fairford. When I was taken from my
mother's lonely home and brought to the commotion of the Gaits' class
at the High School, when I was teased because of my English accent,
when they threw snow at me because I was from the south, when I was
thrown into the gutter for a Saxon pock-pudding--who defended me with
heavy arguments and even heavier punches? It was you, Alan Fairford.
Who beat me soundly when I brought my arrogance from being an only son,
and a spoiled brat, to the school's little republic? It was you, Alan.
You taught me not to pick on weak people, but to stand up to the
strong. You taught me not to repeat tales outside of school, to obey
the stern order of a pande mamun
['hold out your hand'],
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and to endure my punishments without wincing, and to determine to be a
better person for them. In other words, before I knew you, I didn't
know anything. It was the same at college. When I was hopelessly idle,
your example and encouragement roused me to try harder and showed me
how to enjoy learning. You made me like history and metaphysics. In
fact, you almost made me a defense lawyer just like yourself.' [Redgauntlet by Sir
Walter Scott]
Even though the relationship between Alan Fairford and Darsie Latimer
was sensible, it wasn't a loose, common-place friendship. Their
friendship didn't take precedence over duty when things were going
well. Alan worked hard preparing for his career and was an obedient and
affectionate son even though his father was demanding. But when his
friend is in danger, this clever Alan disregards his chances and risks
his life with wholehearted devotion. As a young lawyer, he has made his
first appearance with noted success in a difficult case. He is
delivering his speech and persuading the court when he sees the slip of
paper that tells him that Darsie is in trouble. 'He stopped short in
his speech, stared at the paper with a look of surprise and horror,
uttered an exclamation, threw down the notes he had in his hand, and
rushed out of court without even answering the questions that followed
him: 'What happened to him?' 'Did he suddenly get sick?' 'Should a
substitute be called?' He writes a note to his father: 'I hope you
won't be surprised or too displeased to hear that I'm on my way to
Dumfriesshire to do my own investigation and find out the current state
of my dear friend and give
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whatever help I'm able to. I hope it does some good. I can only say, in
further apology, that if, heaven forbid, anything bad happens to the
person who is dearest to me except yourself, I'll regret it for the
rest of eternity.'
A
Friendship That's Loyal Even in the Face of Disillusion
Elizabeth Gaskell, in the sincere and graceful style that distinguishes
her writing, tells us in Wives and
Daughters about the friendship between Molly Gibson and Cynthia
Fitzgerald. Molly is a charming English girl with a sensible heart and
mind. Cynthia, her step-sister, comes into her life like a beautiful,
bewitching vision. Of course, Molly fell in love with her--girls don't
just fall in love with men. Cynthia was just as attracted to Molly's
freshness and simplicity. They spent many pleasant hours in Mrs.
Gibson's parlor chatting and working. Both girls are kind and concerned
about what's best for the other, experiencing the natural give-and-take
of friendship. Cynthia tends to get involved with different men, and
Molly has a difficult time when she has to do some unpleasant things to
get Cynthia out of a serious dilemma. But she does them without
sacrificing her integrity, and Cynthia submits to letting her friend
help. Unfortunately, it's impossible to do justice in just a few
sentences to their natural friendship that even disillusion couldn't
shatter.
Friends
are Brought to Us by the Circumstances of our Lives
Young people often make the mistake of thinking that a friend has to be
perfect. So, as soon as they begin to notice little failings, they
think that they don't need to be loyal anymore. David Copperfield [Dickens] is a wonderful
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example of loyalty in life. The circumstances of David's life bring an
unusual assortment of friends, but he's ready and willing to accept the
friendship of all of them! With simple good-nature, he lets Mr.
Micawber call him 'the friend of my youth,' and he listens to Mrs.
Micawber's domestic secrets even though he's only a boy of ten years
old! The Micawbers turn up at all kinds of inconvenient times, but
David always welcomes them. Traddles is another friend, such a nice
person. He and David share a healthy, generous relationship. David has
a long list of friendships--Peggotty, Mr. Dick, Ham, Dr. Strong, Mrs.
Peggotty and the rest. He finds something to like about every one of
them. He honors, serves, and values each of them with complete loyalty.
But none of these friends tries to control him or demand that he love
them exclusively. He had one friend with whom he lost his individuality
because he was so fascinated by him. This was Steerforth. The way he
showed loyalty for him was by being sad about his shame rather than his
death.
It's not the friends we choose who have exclusive rights over us. The
friends who come into our lives here and there because of our
circumstances are entitled to our loyalty. We get the same things from
those friendships that David Copperfield did--kindness in return for
our kindness, service for service, loyalty for loyalty. And we get
these things in full measure, heaped up and overflowing. There's
probably no better guide to friendship than this charming story about a
life that was filled with generous, loyal friendships. It also shows us
how fine purity of the soul is, and it warns us of a great impurity.
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Chapter
6 - The Rulings of Conscience in the House of the Body: Purity (part 3)
The
Final Impurity
It all begins so innocently, yet the result is disaster from which
there's no treatment. People say it isn't fair that it should always be
the woman who suffers while the man gets off scot-free. But does he
really get away with it?
The die-hard reprobate is probably so far gone that he can't be any
more degraded. But the man who falls into the sin of impurity for the
first time loses his future as surely as the woman does, although it
may not
be as obvious. He may escape public disgrace, but he never recovers the
loss of power, purpose and integrity that result from a loss of purity.
He will be handicapped for the rest of his life, although he may not
even remember why. If he eventually does get married, his children
often repeat their father's sin.
It's worth our while to trace the history of one seduction. This is
from the book Ruth by
Elizabeth Gaskell. Ruth is a friendless orphan who is apprenticed to a
hat-maker. She is distinguished among her co-workers by her quiet,
lady-like manners and by her beauty. 'How can I help knowing how pretty
I am?' she answered simply, 'so many people have told me so.'
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She goes to the town dance with her employer, Mrs. Mason, and some of
the other apprentices for the purpose of being on hand to mend rips in
gown and things like that. One lady comes to Ruth with her
fiancé to
get a tear in her dress fixed. She is arrogant to Ruth, and the
fiancé, Mr. Bellingham, is not pleased with her rudeness. He
picks up a camellia and gives it to Ruth, saying, 'Here, allow me to
give you this flower from Miss Dunscombe as a thank you for your
skillful help.'
We admire Mr. Bellingham for his act of courtesy, and so does Ruth. She
treasures the camellia and her thoughts dwell on the polite gentleman.
She meets him again by accident under dramatic circumstances. She's
trying to rescue a drowning child and he rides up just in time and
saves the boy. This gives them a chance to speak again. He leaves his
wallet with Ruth to buy whatever is needed for the boy. So, of course,
she has to see him again to return his wallet and give an account of
what she spent. Then they see each other at church a few times, and
everything is still innocent, no wrong is intended. Next, we're
introduced to Mr. Bellingham in his home.
'He thought more about Ruth than she thought about him, even though his
appearance was a more momentous event in her life than his. He didn't
analyze the nature of his feelings for her, he just enjoyed them with
all the novelty that youth takes in experiencing any strong, new
emotion. He was an only child, and hadn't formed the characteristic
maturity that usually comes with adulthood. His discipline had been
sporadic as it often is
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with only children. He had been hindered because of over-anxiety, and
unwisely over-indulged because his parents' love had been so focused on
one object. That's what had influenced his education.' With these
words, the author gives us some insight into the situation and we begin
to suspect what's going to happen. David Copperfield's friend
Steerforth
was the only son of a proud, indulgent, heedless mother. In Adam Bede, Arthur Donnithorne is
the only son of a loving but domineering father. It seems like only
children need to be more careful in life. Maybe that's because it's
harder to sneak around in the midst of lots of brothers and sisters,
and it's the deviousness that's the problem, whether the family's large
or small. Young Mr. Bellingham finds himself fascinated, he doesn't
know quite why. He's even more intrigued because 'she seemed to have
some kind of a spell in her shyness that made her avoid and shun anyone
who admired her and wanted to get to know her. He determined not to
startle her with bold admiration or reckless, passionate words. He
resisted the strong temptation to walk alongside her on the way home
from church. Instead, he said just a few words about weather, bowed,
and then left. Ruth didn't think she should see any more of him.
Although she reproved herself for being so foolish, she felt like a
shadow had fallen over her life.' Then there comes a Sunday when Mr.
Bellingham walks home from church with her through the fields.
Later that evening she thought, 'How strange that the lovely afternoon
walk seems somehow, not exactly wrong, but not exactly right, either.'
Other walks follow on the next Sundays.
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She tells him about all the miseries she endures at Mrs. Mason's. Mr.
Bellingham asks to see her old home, Milham Grange, which is six miles
away. The next fine Sunday, they both go. He watched her admiringly as
she 'walked around luxuriant, overgrown shrubs in natural, graceful,
wavy lines.' Everything goes well until Mrs. Mason, who also happens to
be out enjoying the afternoon, sees her with a young man and kicks her
out. Mr. Bellingham, who had stepped away for a few minutes, comes back
to find Ruth crying. She tells him what just happened.
'Her eyes were so blinded by her tears that she didn't notice the
change in his expression as he watched her. Even if she had seen it,
she wouldn't have been able to interpret it. He was quiet for so long
that, even through her tears, she wondered why he didn't say something.
She would have liked to have heard his soothing words. Finally he said,
'It's too bad...' and then stopped. Then he began again. 'It's too bad
because, I didn't want to mention it before, but I have some business
and I need to go out of town tomorrow. To London, I mean. I don't know
when I'll be able to come back.' Before, he had probably just intended
to have a little fling with her, but that kind of fun is like playing
on the edge of a cliff. Elizabeth Gaskell writes delicately about that
moment of silence when Bellingham's lust turned to anger and disgust.
This same kind of moment in the life of Arthur Donnithorne, who meant
well, led to the ruin and tragedy of Hetty Sorrel. We don't know when
the exact moment was that Steerforth's passion turned to disgust,
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but it's good for every young man and young woman to realize that such
a moment
could very well be in their future, when they'll have to fight that
monster within each of us called Lust. Self-indulgence prepares the
way, flirtation presents a pretty flowered side path, and before you
know it, two lives are ruined. We won't stay safe by thinking that
we're too refined or superior for such base temptations. The only way
to deal with it is to have a strong, active life and to be able to say,
like Paul, 'I keep my body under and bring it into subjection.' The
flowered path of flirting can only lead to one end.
Bellingham brings Ruth to London, and then to North Wales. Jenny, the
landlady at the hotel where they stay, says, 'It's obvious they aren't
married.' Still, Ruth enjoyed the beauty of the mountains. Her
admiration and contentment irritated Bellingham. Ruth sighed at her
inability to amuse and satisfy the one she loved. The people at the
hotel commented about the couple. 'She's absolutely beautiful,' said
one man, 'but she can't be any older than sixteen. She looks very
modest and innocent in that white dress.' His wife answered, 'Well, I
think it's shameful that they let those kinds of people stay here.' And
other people thought the same thing. Ruth's solitary walks began to be
hampered by rude remarks and hostile looks. Then Mr. Bellingham gets
sick with a high fever. His mother is sent for to take care of him.
Poor Ruth has nobody else now but the meager kindness of the landlady.
She endures days and nights of terrible anxiety. When Bellingham is
better, he discusses Ruth with his mother. He
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has some regret, but mostly, he's sorry for himself. Without seeing
Ruth, without even saying goodbye, he says to his mother, 'Can't we
just leave tonight? I wouldn't be so annoyed by her presence if I were
somewhere else. I dread facing her and having a scene, yet I feel like
I owe her some kind of explanation.' This is how he treats her after
ruining her life, and this is his only thanks for her loving devotion.
Ruth was
so young and naive that she probably didn't fully realize the
implications that her mistake would have on her life. The story
continues. Bellingham and his mother leave in high style. He never
seeks to see Ruth or say goodbye. A badly deformed but kind man finds
her afterwards, crouching in a lonely place. She says sadly, 'He left
me--I can't believe it--he's gone and left me!' Before he could offer a
word to comfort him, she burst into the wildest, most dejected crying
imaginable. Hearing herself say the words and realizing the finality of
it cut her heart. Her sobbing and moaning wrung the man's soul, but he
knew she wouldn't hear anything he might say yet, even if he knew what
to say. So he stood beside her calmly while she wailed and sobbed out
her wretchedness. Finally, when she lay worn out and unable to cry any
more, she heard him say quietly to himself, 'Oh, Lord, for Jesus' sake,
have pity on her!' The good man and his sister nurse her through a
perilous illness and finally take her and her baby home with them to
Lancashire, where he's the minister of a small chapel. Ruth goes
through the bitter waters of repentance. A life spent making up for
sin and serving in humility add a Christian character to her natural
beauty. Her transformation was probably
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easier because her sin wasn't caused by lust, but by loneliness,
despair and oppression.
We know that David found forgiveness even for lust, but it seemed to
leave an indelible mark in his character. And that's what happens to
Mr. Bellingham. Years later, Ruth is doing a valuable service in a
position of humility when she met him again. 'He was changed, but she
didn't know why. The fact is, the ugly expression she had only seen
when he was at his worst had become permanent. He looked restless and
discontent. He thought that the lady was a lot like poor Ruth, but this
woman was even more beautiful. Poor Ruth! And, for the first time in
many years, he wondered what ever happened to her. Of course, there was
only one thing that could
have happened, and it was probably just as well that he didn't know
because the knowledge would most likely had made him uncomfortable.'
This is what Bellingham is like after all those years. Ruth, who was
sinned against, was able to act with Christian dignity and grace. But
we see Bellingham, who 'got off scot-free,' later as a middle-aged man.
He's a person drifting aimlessly, without conscience or heart. He's in
bondage to all-consuming lust.
We don't need to follow the story to its very end. It's a book worth
reading--even more so if, while you read, you ask what the apostles
ask, 'Lord, is it me?' Is this kind of misery or something worse, and
this kind of degraded character, possible for me? Is there anything in
me that's possible of bringing about such a shameful fall? You can be
sure that there is.
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Sometimes we hear dark rumors about white men in the wilds of Africa
who have broken free from the restraints of civilized society and
commit acts of unbelievable cruelty. When we hear things like this, we
should also ask ourselves, 'Lord, is it me?' Because it's a fact that,
once we break free from the bonds of duty towards God and mankind, lust
and hate run rampant within us and there's no sin we're not capable of.
But let's take courage. No final fall can overtake a person who keeps
his soul protected from the first fall. This is the person who
preserves his purity as if he's walling it within a tower of brass. He
doesn't let any image of uncleanness in to pollute his imagination, he
keeps his mind busy with worthwhile interests and healthy things to do,
he keeps his body under subjection by making himself work, and he
wisely exercises restraint and self-control in matters like eating,
drinking, relaxing and sleeping.
A person like this who knows the dangers and pitfalls that are all
around will pray faithfully every day, 'Our Father in heaven, don't
lead us into temptation, but deliver us from evil, Amen.' Having said
that kind of a prayer, he doesn't think any more about it. Instead, he
goes his way without fear, rejoicing in the life he has.
'Through faith and prayer, I'll keep
A pure heart in work and will.'
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Chapter
7 - The Rulings of the Conscience in the House of the Body: Fortitude
Fortitude:
Enduring Adversity with Courage
Boticelli's painting of Fortitude
and John Ruskin's interpretation of
the painting are two things that the Conscience should memorize by
heart. In this picture, Fortitude is not some giant figure, boldly
standing strong, bristling with energy to withstand any enemy. Although
she's tall and noble, yet she's sitting down, exhausted from some kind
of effort that she's been at for a long time. She looks pensive, too,
as
if she's thinking, 'How much longer?' But even though she's resting,
she's still wary and alert. She still hasn't loosened her grip on the
unsheathed sword that's laying across her lap. She's in the thick of a
battle and the end is nowhere in sight, but she doesn't have the
advantage of being on the offensive. There's no denying that she's
weary, yet she isn't sorry for herself or self-satisfied. She only has
one thing on her mind. She's focused on the task that needs to be done,
not on herself as the one doing the task. Or, rather, she's focused on
the task that has to be endured--because Fortitude's existence is one
of
suffering.
The Bible doesn't specify Fortitude by name as one of the Christian
virtues, but it does give the best examples of Fortitude in action.
Jesus, who endured more than any of us can even put into words, said
about Himself, 'I am meek and of lowly spirit.' Perhaps that quote
gives a key to what Fortitude means. It's not so much
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a valiant virtue as a patient grace. Fortitude is distinguished more
for what she patiently suffers than for what she does.
The apostle Paul gave us an image of the fullness of Christ by using
the different aspects of Love. In the same way, Isaiah gave us an image
of Fortitude by describing the humiliations and sufferings of Christ.
Fortitude is like a delicate plant with no particular beauty or
strength. It grows up within each of us. It endures sorrows and
punishments, suffers without saying anything, doesn't strike back or
speak deceitfully, is made sad, and yet--divides the reward with the
strong. There's only one real kind of Fortitude known to men, and
that's the Fortitude of Christ. Every time we're able to endure
something cheerfully, without feeling sorry for ourselves or proud of
our patience, it's from Christ's divine Fortitude working in us.
Moses was the meekest man who ever lived. His meekness was Fortitude.
He endured the wayward people of Israel for forty years. When he
thought that the people's offenses had surely exceeded God's patience,
he prayed, 'Now, if you will, forgive their sin, If you won't, then I
pray that you would blot me out of your Book of Life, too.'
After his own share of suffering, Paul wrote, 'often I had to travel, I
was in danger in the sea, in danger from robbers, in danger from people
from my own country, in danger from heathens, in danger in the city, in
danger in remote areas, in danger at sea, in danger from false
Christians, often tired and in pain, having to be on the alert on many
occasions, hungry and thirsty, often with absolutely nothing to eat,
cold and without enough clothing or protection from the elements.' Yet
he was so concerned for his fellow Jews that he wished he might be a
under a curse if it would help them.
Maybe Fortitude always has a tender side and always endures hardships
because of love. Even a child bravely enduring a toothache cheerfully
might be motivated out of love--he doesn't want to upset his mother.
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In the Middle Ages, the tradition of having Fortitude took on the form
of chivalry, which might be considered a school whose teachers were the
various distresses that knights had to endure. Knights showed more
Fortitude than the monks and nuns who practiced discipline and
self-mortification in their monasteries. Roland, Oliver and all of the
'Champions of Christendom' suffered as many hardships as the apostles.
Paul told Timothy to 'endure hardship.' As part of their training,
knights were expected to endure hardship without wincing and without
resentment. In Sir Walter Scott's book The Talisman, Sir Kenneth shows us
a kind of knightly Fortitude that's possible even for us.
Having
Fortitude in the Midst of Poverty
'May I see your sick squire, sir?' Sir Kenneth, the Scottish knight,
hesitated and turned red. But at last he answered, 'Yes, of course,
Lord of Gilsland. But don't be surprised when you see him--remember
that nobles and knights in Scotland don't eat as well or sleep in beds
as soft or nurse their patients in buildings as magnificent as what our
southern neighbors are accustomed to. The place I'm staying in is not
very fancy, Lord Gilsland,' and he added a haughty emphasis on the
word. Somewhat unwillingly, he led the way to the place he was staying
temporarily. Sir Kenneth looked around sadly, but hid his feelings and
went into the hut, motioning for the Baron of Gilsland to follow him
in. Most of he space inside the hut was taken up with two beds. One bed
was empty. It was made of leaves and covered with an antelope skin. The
armor laying beside it and a silver crucifix carefully and reverently
placed at the head of the bed clearly indicated that this was the bed
of Sir Kenneth himself.
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The sick man was in the other bed. He was older than middle-aged,
strongly built, and had harsh features. His bed was softer than his
master's. He was wearing more courtly clothing and the soft loose robe
that knights usually wear. These and other spare articles of clothing
had obviously been used by Sir Kenneth to make his servant more
comfortable.'
This is an example of Fortitude under very difficult circumstance. Even
under desperate poverty, pity and tenderness for dependents brought out
the knight's personal dignity and courage. Any man who shows this kind
of fortitude is truly heroic. Even the strange hermit-monk of Lebanon
whose body was scarred with wounds from trying to repent of his sins,
isn't as good an example of Christian fortitude as the knight.
Fortitude
Under Distressing Troubles
We appreciate noble lessons that we can apply to everyday situations.
We understand that Mrs.
Garth also showed an act of Fortitude during an undeserved and
troubling situation.
Mrs. Garth (from George Eliot's Middlemarch)
is making pies, supervising the baking and washing, and teaching her
youngest boy and girl Lindley
Murray's grammar, all at the same time. Fred Vincy shows up to
see her husband. Then Caleb himself [her
husband] comes in.
'Mr. Garth, I have something to say that I'm afraid will give you a bad
opinion of me. I need to tell you and Mrs. Garth that I can't keep my
promise. I can't find the money to pay the bill after
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all. I've had some bad luck. All I have of the hundred and sixty pounds
I owe is these fifty pounds.'
Mrs. Garth was too astonished to say a word. She looked at her husband
for an explanation. Caleb blushed. After a little pause he said,
'Oh, I forgot to tell you, Susan--I co-signed a bill for Fred. It was
for a hundred and sixty pounds. He made sure he'd be able to pay it off
himself first.'
There was an obvious change in Mrs. Garth's expression, but it was like
a change below the surface of water that remains smooth on the surface.
She looked directly at Fred and said,
'I suppose you've already asked your father for the rest of the money
and he refused you?'
'No,' said Fred, biting his lip and speaking with more difficulty. 'I
already know it'll be useless to ask him. Unless it would be of use,
I'd rather not mention Mr. Garth's name in the matter.'
'This couldn't have happened at a worse time,' said Caleb in his
hesitating way, looking down at the money and nervously fingering the
bill. 'Christmas is coming and I'm rather hard up right now. As it is,
things are so tight that I'm like a tailor who has to cut everything
out just a little too small to have enough cloth. What can we do,
Susan? I'm going to need every penny we have in the bank. It's a
hundred and ten pounds, gone just like that!'
'I'll need to give you the ninety-two pounds I had saved for Alfred's
apprenticeship,' said Mrs. Garth solemnly and decisively, although a
sensitive ear might have noticed a slight shaking in her words as she
spoke.
'And I'm sure Mary has saved twenty pounds from her salary by now.
She'll loan us that.'
Mrs. Garth hadn't looked at Fred again and was
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not calculating at all what words she could use to hurt him most
deeply. She was an unusual woman, and was busy considering what would
need to be done. She knew the solution wouldn't be accomplished any
more effectively by venting bitter remarks or cutting rebukes. But she
had made Fred feel something like remorse for the first time in his
life all the
same.
'I promise I'll pay it--somehow, eventually,' he stammered out.
'Yes, eventually,' said Mrs. Garth. She disliked fine words in
distressing situations and she couldn't resist adding, 'But boys can't
be apprenticed eventually, they should be apprenticed at fifteen.' She
had never been less inclined to make excuses for Fred. Fred turned and
left.
'I was such a fool, Susan.'
'Yes you were,' said his wife, nodding and smiling. But I wouldn't have
let the world know it, why didn't you tell me about this earlier? You
do the same thing with your buttons. You let them burst off without
telling me, and then you go around with your sleeves unbuttoned.'
In Scenes of Clerical Life by
George Eliot, the story of Mrs. Amos Barton's life and death in the
poor parsonage house is a record of gentle and dignified fortitude.
Cheerful,
Serviceable Fortitude
We think of Mark Tapley from Dickens' Martin
Chuzzlewit with a sense of relief. He found 'no credit in being
jolly' when things were going well. But no knight-errantry can exceed
the cheerful, serviceable Fortitude he showed in the jolly way that he
made the best of things in 'Eden.' The enemies he struggled against
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were unromantic things--fever, famine, discontent, and helplessness in
every member of that poor colony. And what a gritty and unpretentious
struggle that was! Mark Tapley deserves an honored place among our
closest friends, although he might not think there was any credit for
being so jolly in such a pleasant position!
We don't need to go all the way to his colony of 'Eden' to find
Fortitude. In Bleak House, a
birthday dinner cooked (!) by her loving family gave Mrs. Bagnet the
occasion for a lot of cheerful serenity.
What a contrast she is to Our Mutual
Friend's Mrs. Wilfur, who lets the whole world know she's
enduring a trial by tying a black ribbon around her face. How many of
us do the same thing in a symbolic way, wearing the black ribbon of a
sullen mood and mournful face! Instead of gradually coming down, we've
jumped from the highest examples of noble Fortitude to common, even
absurd examples. But they fit our purpose. It might not be a bad idea
to keep a notebook for recording people and incidents that give
inspiration to conscience in the area of Fortitude.
The
List of Our Heroes
We don't have enough time to talk about Nansen, Gordon, Howard,
Livingstone, Collingwood, Raleigh, Galileo, Florence Nightingale,
Calpurnia, Mackay of Uganda, or Grace Darling. The list of people whose
Fortitude distinguished them is actually our list of heroes. If we
start a book of examples of Fortitude, it will become a book of heroes,
both of great and small things. You might object that Fortitude is a
matter of the heart and mind, not the physical body. But if the body
isn't kept in
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its proper place and trained to endure without complaining, then
Fortitude doesn't stand a chance. It's within the body that we must
endure trials, and training is done through cheerfully enduring small
trials that are too minor to list.
The Song of the Lotos-Eaters
has a message for all of us:
'All things have rest. Why should we toil alone,
Only we who are first have to toil
And moan continually
Always thrown from one sorrow to another.
We never get to fold our wings
And rest from our wanderings
Or rest our eyes in the healing balm of sleep
Or listen to the inner spirit as it sings,
'The only joy is calm!'
Why should we, the supreme beings in Creation
Be the only ones who constantly toil?'
[adapted from Tennyson]
That's why we need Fortitude. Without it, no person has ever brought
life to any purpose. 'I fight, not like someone just pounding his fists
into the air, but I keep my body under control and bring it into
subjection.'
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Chapter
8 - The Rulings of the Conscience in the House of the Body: Prudence
Good
Judgment and Common Sense
Imprudence
is Selfishness
'I am wisdom. I live with prudence and discover knowledge of witty
inventions.' That saying is worth reflecting on in this age when
Prudence is no longer fashionable. Young people confuse impulsiveness
with heart, so they look down on Prudence. Yet, of all the deceitful
and harmful forms of selfishness, Imprudence is probably the most
destructive. Prudence is one of the counselors who teaches Conscience
about the dealings of the House of the Body, because Prudence is mostly
manifested in connection with physical matters, and physical matters
all affect the body either directly or indirectly.
Prudence
in Affairs
We know how a virtuous woman is described. Virtuous is another word for
prudent. A prudent woman is the one who seeks wool and flax and works
diligently with her hands. She brings food from far away. She's the one
who gets up early in the morning and feeds her family breakfast. She
checks out a plot of land and makes an offer on it. She's careful to
keep up her health and her strength. She goes
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out of her way to help the poor, but is still able to enhance her own
family and maintain a reputation of peace and respect in the community.
Joseph was prudent. He considered the future and made plans for the
benefit of Egypt, his new home, and for the success of Pharaoh, his
boss. England's King Alfred was very prudent. Every great commander
wins his battles through Prudence as much as through bravery.
Prudence
in Selecting Friends
There was one incident where Alcibiades (from Plutarch's Lives) showed prudence.
'He
had always been surrounded with pleasures, and many would-be friends
made it a point to say only what they thought he wanted to hear. They
would never criticize or correct him. But Alcibiades had natural
insight and recognized the value of Socrates. He rejected the rich and
popular people who clamored for his attention and attached himself to
Socrates. He soon became close friends with Socrates. He discovered
that Socrates didn't want special favors from him like everyone else
did. It was more important to him to analyze and correct Alcibiades's
faulty attitudes and to cure his worthless, foolish arrogance.
'Then his face fell and his pride was humbled.
His spirits submitted in humility.'
He considered the discipline of Socrates as a gift from heaven to
preserve and benefit the youths of the culture. Knowing his own faults,
he admired his friend, respected his virtue and loved his wisdom.
Without even realizing it, he copied the love he saw in his own heart,
allowing himself to submit under the influence of the power that, as
Plato said, attracts devotion because of its own deep love.'
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This is a great example of Prudence in the selection of friends and
mentors. If only Alcibiades had been as reliable as he was prudent.
Prudence
Doesn't Tolerate Undue Influence
Alexander (Plutarch's Lives),
in his heroic days, showed admirable Prudence. He could tell the
difference between things he came across. 'He gave his mother lots of
expensive gifts, but he wouldn't let her intelligent mind meddle in
affairs of government, or have any control over the business of state.
She complained that this was a hardship for her to deal with. He
endured her annoyance patiently. Antipater once wrote him a long letter
full of serious criticisms against his mother. Alexander read the
letter and then remarked, 'Antipater doesn't understand that one tear
of a mother can blot out a thousand of these kinds of complaints.' He
wouldn't allow his mother to interfere with his duties as ruler, yet
his love for her was very great.
And Jesus, who was even greater than Alexander, said, 'Don't you know
that I must be busy with my Father's business?' It's Prudence's special
duty to make sure that no undue influence is allowed even from those
who are nearest and dearest to us. It's our duty to think for ourselves
and to consider what's best for everyone. We can't allow ourselves to
be swayed by the private interests of anybody. Any government whose
officers can be persuaded to make any decisions for the private good of
themselves or their own interests is corrupt at its core.
Prudence chooses what's simple, and never prefers luxury. It thinks
that work is more honorable than pleasure, and trains the body to
handle severe treatment. In all of these things,
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Alexander was a good example of gentle, heroic Prudence.
Prudence
Is Always Moderate in Everything
'He discovered that his officers had no limits in their extravagance.
They enjoyed luxurious dining and all kinds of other indulgences. Agnon
of Teos even used silver nails in his shoes, Leonatus had camel-loads
of dirt delivered all the way from Egypt to rub himself with before he
went into the wrestling ring, Philotas bought netting that would
enclose an area twelve miles wide when he went hunting, and
others had expensive essences to use after bathing instead of plain
oil, and special servants to prepare their baths and make their beds.
Alexander rebuked these decadent practices like a true philosopher.
'He said that it seemed odd to him that, after experiencing so many
glorious battles, they forgot that sleep was more restful after honest
work and exercise than after lazy pampering. After they'd seen the way
the Persians lived, he was surprised that it wasn't obvious to them
that nothing was more shameful than the love of pleasure, and nothing
was more noble than a life of honest work. How can a man take care of
his own horse or put on his own sword and helmet if his hands are too
delicate to dress and bathe his own pampered body? The end of victory
isn't to succumb to living like those who were conquered, but to live
better than they did.' (from Plutarch's Life of Alexander.)
Prudent
Citizens Are a Society's Most Valuable Asset
The laws of Lycurgus (Plutarch's Lives)
resulted from noble and generous prudence. If Sparta was going to
succeed in its long conflict with Athens, it would have to do it through
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the fitness of each of its citizens. Lycurgus understood that each
individual possessed in himself the most valuable thing in Sparta--a
body prepared for work and endurance, and a mind that could recognize
the seriousness of a situation.
'He wanted to cure them of their quest for luxury and desire for
riches. So he introduced a third plan that was wise and brilliantly
designed. He set up community dining halls where everyone would eat the
same food, and the government would decide what was served. The people
were forbidden to eat at home at fancy tables and couches with gourmet
meals prepared by private butchers and cooks. No longer cold they stuff
themselves like pigs in private. Such gluttony corrupted their table
manners and made them fat and unhealthy. It encouraged all kinds of
sensuous habits, including sleeping in and lounging in warm baths, as
pampered as invalids. He made another law to discourage magnificence
and expensive living. He decreed that ceilings in the houses couldn't
be made with any tool except an axe, and doors couldn't be made with
anything beyond a saw. Because, as Epaminondas said later, you can't
hide treason under that kind of meal. And Lycurgus knew that a house
with an axe-hewn ceiling and sawn door is no place for fine splendor
and fancy furniture. It would be absurd to have a humble, plain house
and fill it with silver bedposts, purple quilts, golden cups and other
fine luxuries. A plain and simple house would motivate a person to buy
a suitable bed with sensible bedding and dishes to match.
There are things about a Spartan lifestyle that aren't appropriate for
a Christian life,
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but wise people feel strongly these days that it's in the best
interest of society to live simple lives, to avoid excesses even in
the athletic or intellectual realm, and to avoid having any more
possessions than are needed to live a simple, sensible life. There's
nothing wrong with allowing ourselves to live with furniture and tools
that are beautiful as well as practical, but we shouldn't let ourselves
accumulate unnecessary stuff that clutters our lives and requires our
time to maintain, especially if the things are valuable merely because
of how much they cost. These kinds of things get in the way of what's
really valuable: a body that does what we need, and a mind that's
alert. We need a fit body and mind to do our duty to our community and
meet our family responsibilities.
'When the money was brought to Athens, Phocion (Plutarch's Lives) asked those who brought it
why he should be singled out to receive such a gift. They said it was
because Alexander considered him the only honest and good man in
Athens. 'Then let me retain that character and really be that kind of
man,' said Phocion. Phocion brought the men to his home and they saw
how frugal a life he led. His wife baked bread, he drew water himself
and washed his own feet. That made them urge him even more to take the
money. They said it wasn't fit for the friend of such a fine prince as
Alexander to live in such a wretched manner. Just then, a poor old man
happened to walk by in rags. Phocion asked whether the men thought less
of him than
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they did the old man. They begged him not to make such a comparison,
but Phocion responded, 'That old man lives on less than I do, yet he is
happy. If you give me the money and I don't use it, it's wasted. But if
I use it to live a life of luxury, the people of Athens will resent
both me and Alexander, your king.' So they took the money back with
them. The incident was a good lesson for the Greeks. A man who doesn't
care to receive a gift of money is richer than the one who can afford
to offer such a gift.'
When it comes to Prudence, Jesus is our best example. The Bible says,
'My servant will deal prudently,' and we'll learn a lot by studying the
gospels to see how He dealt prudently with the only thing He owned--His
life. That's really the only thing of real value that any of us truly
has. If we think of Christ as our example, we'll live sensibly and not
lose our common sense to any kind of excesses.
Paraphrased by L. N. Laurio
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